Back to Back Views: A Good Woman; A Good Man

Trenia and John

 

I'll start with a disclaimer: I do not have a PhD in Psychology! I am a commentator with an opinion ... or two.

What is a good man? When we came up with this topic, Ihad a lot to say! However, when it was time to pen my thoughts, I drew a blank. Why? The definition of a good man is about what you think.

It starts with how you feel aboutself.What are your core values?What'simportant to you? These deep rooted beliefs will probably not change. Converse with a man about his values. What you learn may surprise you.

A good man shouldn't be confused with a good man who is not a good fit. Chemistry should be factored in, also. For some, opposites attract. If youhate (that's a strong word ... have a strong dislike for) football and think Monday nights should be spent taking walks in the park, and hethinks theyshould be spent watching Monday night football, playing armchair quarterback, what will Monday nights be like for you? Sports is not a core value (well, for men it may be!) ... however, ifsmall differences annoy you, how will you react to big differences? If you'd rather spend Saturday nights getting ready for tomorrow'sSunday School class, and he spendsevery Saturday night in the club, is that acceptable to you?