Before we set out to find love (or let love find us), we mustspendtime with self.Women often go into relationships looking to change a man. We fall in love with a man's potential.
What are his friends like? You know the saying: Birds of a feather flock together?His friends say a lot about him.Friends influence friends. If he's hanging out with toxic friends now, what makes you think he will stop?
To clarify, justbecause man is not right for you,doesn't mean he's a bad man. It means the relationship may not be right for you.
I encourage you to read Galatians 5:22, and Philippians 4:8?When we set out to meet a man, we should start there!
Lastly, excellence should be something we all seek. It'sgoingfurther than is required. Most people will only do the minimum.They do enough to "get by". Try this, whoevercompels you to go one mile, go with him two! As you give excellence, you should expect it. Settle for nothing less.
In the words of Iyanla Vanzant, wecome into relationships to grow, not to live in misery. Relationships should be sustaining, energizing, and growth-supporting. When they are not, our growth is stunted, our energy is depleted, and our personality is distorted. If you are in a relationship in which you are happy sometimes, sad most of the time, struggling to figure out what to do, and how to make it last, you may be out of place.
So, the question should be, "What is a good man for you?" After reading this article, hopefully you're closer to having ananswer.